Our experience shows that the codependent rupture, which creates an outward focus to gain love or affirmation, is created by a dysfunctional childhood. It is the same rupture among adult children of all family types. This soul rupture is the... Continue Reading →
Many of us can easily identify with emotional pain. In fact, it accumulates as stored grief and it drives a lot of our behavior. Although we may be able to readily call it up at a moment's notice, like an old friend, we have a hard time letting go of it. We have lived with emotional pain for so long, it is a familiar home.
Without humility, we have seen some adult children place wants ahead of needs with troubling outcomes. Feeling empty inside, they chase after their wants constantly through spending, debting, and comparing their lives to others. Many adult children spend hours looking... Continue Reading →
"When we look at the exact nature of our wrongs, we see that we have harmed ourselves based on our sense of being unacceptable, inferior or lost." p. 198, ACA Book, Step 5. In our society, we often focus on... Continue Reading →
One day we wake up and realize we are not sinking anymore, our soul is mending, the holes are being repaired, we are learning how to sail our ship and we are less and less afraid of the storms. We are also able to enjoy the peaceful times.
"Discovery is marvelous, but recovery is the focus. We can discover many things from insightful self-help books or from a talk-show host. Yet, our experience shows that we cannot read ourselves into true change, and we cannot watch enough television... Continue Reading →